I can’t really say how many people rename their databases. It is squirreled away in database properties, so that probably makes it less likely.
I’m really thinking about frictionless design, though: users are empowered to accomplish tasks (putting it into an accessible menu) without needing to look in a manual, learn what a path is, etc. But, we also don’t want them to cause irreparable harm or make the app hopelessly bloated with unnecessary stuff.
Perhaps the command does need to leave the contextual menu. But I do think the current way that it is set up in the file menu leaves something to be desired. I don’t think it is obvious that you have to select a database, go to File, and then click Delete Database. The contextual menu seems far more accessible. Alternatively, or in addition to adjustments to the contextual menu, I’d like to see Delete made to behave like other commands if it is in the File menu. I am thinking of potential trouble with a change that borrows from an existing pattern in DT: opening of a database.
If we do make it behave like “open database,” or take it out of DT entirely, then either solution leaves us with Finder, and this is where the database names matter, because it is potentially confusing. I figure it is better to design these kinds of potential problems out of the app rather than relying on people not to do stupid things.
Assuming one of those two solutions is implemented, would it be worth the effort? There is no benefit (that I can see) to having the names out of alignment, though I can imagine a change to make sure the names stay the same inside and outside the app might take a lot of work, and it might not be worth the effort. Only the DT folks can speak to that.
In the end, it seems to me that the simplest solution is still to move the command to the bottom of the list, tweak the way that things are grayed out, and save any major overhauls for a rewrite of the app in the future. This gives users control over the app, without having to leave the app, and it solves the concern originally raised here about accidentally pressing it.